Due to a technical issue, the Sunday homily was not recorded. However, here are Father’s notes from the homily that was delivered at the 10 AM and 12 PM Sunday Masses.
“You have heard that it was said, You shall not commit adultery. But, I say to you, everyone who looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”
Marriage and love
What is love?
“Love is patient and kind; love is not jealous or boastful; it is not arrogant or rude. Love does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrong, but rejoices in the right. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things” (1 Corinthians 13: 4-7).
“Beloved, let us love one another; for love is of God, and he who loves is born of God and knows God. He who does not love does not know God; for God is love. In this the love of God was made manifest among us, that God sent his only Son into the world, so that we might live through him. In this is love, not that we loved God but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the expiation for our sins. Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No man has ever seen God; if we love one another, God abides in us and his love is perfected in us” (1 John 4: 7-12) .
“For God so loved the world that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life. For God sent the Son into the world, not to condemn the world, but that the world might be saved through him” (John 3: 16-17).
“We love, because he first loved us. If anyone says, ‘I love God,’ and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen, cannot love God whom he has not seen. And this commandment we have from him, that he who loves God should love his brother also” (1 John 4: 19-21).
As a married person you are called to love everyone, most especially one’s spouse and children, through the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony. Everything that you do as a married person must be an act of love. Going to work in the morning, cutting the grass, taking out the garbage, playing with your children, going to church with your family on Sunday and your intimate life with each other are just some of the practical ways in which you live out the virtue of love.
True Christian love means total commitment and total dedication. It means that you are going to make a total gift of yourself to your spouse and to your children. Remember what Jesus said in the Gospel of John: “Greater love has no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends” (John 16: 13).
As human beings we love in two ways. We love either through married love or through celibate love.
Celibate love for the kingdom of God is a charism. This gift can be expressed through the Catholic priesthood, the religious life for men and women, or through the commitment made by lay people who dedicate themselves to the service of the Church.
Celibacy expresses three things: 1) total consecration to Jesus; 2) total dedication to the people; 3) an eschatological sign of eternal life in heaven.
Lust as a distortion of love
“Lust is the disordered desire for or inordinate enjoyment of sexual pleasure. Sexual pleasure is morally disordered when sought for itself, isolated from its procreative and unitive purposes” (Catechism of the Catholic Church #2351).
Chastity as the correct way to love
“But, I say to you, everyone who looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”
Jesus did not say if you look at a woman that you have committed adultery, he says if you look at a woman with lust.
How do you see? The Christian vision of all of reality.
Chastity means the successful integration of sexuality within the person and thus the inner unity of man in his bodily and spiritual being.
Integrity means that there exists a psychological wholeness in your reason, will, emotions and passions.
This integrity can only take place, ultimately, through the transforming power of grace.
Concupiscence will always be a part of our lives, but sexual energy can be redeemed and transformed by grace in such a way that sexual energy can be channeled and directed to love correctly, to love in an altruistic way. Christian chastity, therefore, is loving correctly and loving more intensely.
“Chastity includes an apprenticeship in self-mastery which is a training in human freedom. The alternative is clear: either man governs his passions and finds peace, or he lets himself be dominated by them and becomes unhappy” (Catechism of the Catholic Church #2339).
“Self-mastery is a long and exacting work. One can never consider it acquired once and for all. It presupposes renewed effort at all stages of life. The effort required can be more intense in certain periods, such as when the personality is being formed during childhood and adolescence” (Catechism of the Catholic Church #2342).
Fall in love with Jesus.
Fall in love with life.
Fall in love with your family and friends.
Be excited about your future.
Develop a serious life of prayer.
Avoid the darkness – the bad movies, the crazy music, the drugs, the pornography, the crazy people.
Develop a strong family life
Develop strong and lasting friendships
Look to the future of getting married and having your own family with great excitement, knowing that some day soon you will be able to have a happy and successful marriage.